The Necessity of Detachment
~a love note from your Inner Wisdom
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I am writing to remind you of things you already know. When you are feeling hurt and rejected, chances are that you are assigning meaning to another person’s behavior. When the heart is aching, the mind tries to make sense of it.
When someone is emotionally activated, they most often act out of their own pain. They may say spiteful things in an effort to deal with their own discomfort through aggression. They may frame things so that they appear pitiful and garner sympathy through scantily cloaked blame. They might also withdraw completely in an act of self-protection. And sometimes when people set boundaries that are healthy for them, it may seem like it is because you don’t matter or are without value.
During these times, it is human nature to interpret their actions as a personal affront, but it isn’t.
Instead, whenever you feel hurt or rejected, detachment is needed. Stop fueling the feelings with your thoughts. Rather, do whatever healthy self-soothing is needed to attend to your own emotions. Wait and trust. Intentionally withdraw your focus from your internal drama, and place it on what you love. The resolution will emerge when you give yourself and the other person space. Clarity arises when the mind lets go.
Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love and so to live into the fullness of who you are.
As always, do what best awakens you to Love, Your Inner Wisdom
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