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  • Writer's pictureRev. Ani

Embracing the Unwanted

Updated: Jul 15, 2022

~a love note from your Inner Wisdom

Dear One,

I am writing to remind you of things you already know. Except in the cases of abuse and neglect, leaving a situation because you find someone abrasive doesn’t solve the problem in the long term. Why? Because that person is pouring salt on a wound, showing what vulnerability needs to be tended. Heal the wound, and the salt will fall on healthy skin, making no impact.

When you find yourself continually triggered by a specific person, this is an opportunity to make space for introspection. Oftentimes these people are showing you the parts of yourself that you have rejected. Although it may be true that the other person acted (or regularly acts) unskillfully, it is your own reaction to their behavior that causes you to suffer.

The way to take your power back is to look within to find the wound. If you are feeling judgmental, frame it as judgment against yourself; then intentionally practice radical self-acceptance. Look at the places where you are not proud, and refuse to abandon or invalidate yourself in any way. Enfold those spurned misfits in a loving embrace as inherent elements of being human. The disowned parts of yourself are healed and integrated through unconditional self-acceptance and receptive benevolence to those teachers who gift you with the painful fire that purifies and transforms.

What would it take to open your heart fully to yourself and receive your healing?

Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love, and therefore, to live into the fullness of who you are.

As always, do what best awakens you to love, Your Inner Wisdom


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