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When Kindness is Rejected

Updated: Jul 15, 2022

~a love note from your Inner Wisdom

Dear One,

I am writing to remind you of things you already know. When someone rejects your acts of kindness, it doesn’t mean that they are rejecting YOU. Feelings of rejection can really hurt, so it is important not to misinterpret someone’s reaction as personal.

Even your best efforts at helping someone will be rejected at times. It can feel like arrogance to another person when you reach out with assistance when they don’t want anyone’s help. This refusal is not about you. It is one hundred percent about the person’s state of mind.

What IS about you, however, is whether you are trying to feel good about yourself, get love in return, or relieve your own suffering by attempting to solve someone else’s problem.

It can be helpful to check your motives when you are wanting to reach out to someone. Being firmly centered in altruistic love lets you know that your heart is in the right place. Having your heart in the right place doesn’t mean that your assistance will not be refused, though. If it is dismissed, you have the opportunity to disentangle yourself from their reaction, to give yourself the love and appreciation you need, and to forgive the person for not being able to accept your offering of kindness.

Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love, and therefore, to live into the fullness of who you are.

As always, do what best awakens you to love,

Your Inner Wisdom


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