I am writing to remind you of things you already know. A closed heart leads to an us against them mentality. The truth is, though, that we are all on the same team, intimately connected and interdependent upon one another. There is only one of us here. What I do to you, I do to me. We are part of a closed system of giving and receiving, conversion and transformation.
Sometimes the unskillful behavior of others causes us to react by putting our heart behind locked doors. This is when the real work of conscious intent and personal growth takes place. It is in just such times when the heart wants to close, that we have the opportunity to allow pain to make us better instead of bitter by relaxing and opening to the present moment. Closing is just a habit driven by our fear. The good news is that habits can be broken through awareness and practice.
Each time you feel triggered into protecting your pride, allow those feelings of defensiveness to be a reminder to let go of the need for esteem and control, and connect to the Love within you. Relax and let the feelings flow through you without resistance. Observe them and let them go. Before long, your practice will yield amazing fruit, the greatest of which is equanimity.
At the same time, it is important to honor those moments when opening feels too dangerous because of the overwhelming pain that surfaces from times when you have been abused, neglected, or traumatized in the past. Maybe a small crack in the door is all you can muster. You can trust the process of opening the door of your heart one crack at a time. A little opening goes a long way.
Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love, and therefore, to live into the fullness of who you are.
As always, do what best awakens you to love,
Your Inner Wisdom