Telling Yourself a New Story
Updated: Jul 22, 2022
~a love note from your Inner Wisdom
I am writing to remind you of things you already know. Change takes place when you have a new perspective. You cannot arrive at a new conclusion from an old viewpoint. You must see things differently.
Whatever problem is plaguing you will get resolved when you look at it with fresh eyes. If you tell yourself the same story about your life, you will draw the same conclusions. If you give yourself the same reasons why you cannot do something, why it won’t work, or why it is not a good option, you box yourself in. If you look at circumstances in your life, and/or people, and make assumptions, you create structures that confine you.
A new way of seeing begins with asking yourself the question: What if this (reason, assumption) were not true? And then: How might my options change if I believed the opposite were true?
Here are some examples:
Story: “Person” was not there for me (truth), and it means they don’t love me (assumption). I can’t be in the same room with them without getting upset (conclusion).
Story: I have a job with a great salary and benefits, but it doesn’t fulfill me (truth). I want to do something else, maybe go back to school, but that would be irresponsible (assumption). I guess I should stay where I am and suck it up (conclusion).
Story: I want to try this new thing, but it would require going into debt (truth), and I would be setting myself up for failure (assumption). I guess I wasn’t really meant to do that (conclusion).
Story: I have always been the one that made a mistake and had to go back and apologize. Now they made a mistake and need to apologize (truth). If they don’t take the initiative and apologize, it means they don’t really care (assumption). I’m going to give them a month and if they don’t apologize, I’m writing them off (conclusion).
So what’s your story, and how might you see things differently? Your freedom is only a thought away.
Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love and so to live into the fullness of who you are.
As always, do what best awakens you to Love,
Your Inner Wisdom
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