I am writing to remind you of things you already know. If you want to make skillful choices, you must be aware of the part of you that feels insecure and its automatic thoughts and habitual behavior.
Awareness of the story that your insecure self, or shadow, generates and the subsequent ways that you attempt to manipulate circumstances when you feel insecure, empowers you to step out of automatic pilot and release old patterns. Awareness is cultivated through the practices of mindfulness, introspection, and honesty with yourself. Mindfulness promotes clear seeing, compassion for self and others, and the release of blame.
When you act unskillfully—taking things personally, getting defensive, being aggressive, beating yourself up—your shadow self is in charge. Before you can release an old pattern, you have to be willing to admit to yourself (and others) what is truly driving you when you act unskillfully. Perhaps it is fear, shame, anger, or the need for control, approval/validation, or security. Perhaps you have been driven by pride, envy, greed, or lust. Admitting the motivations of your shadow and the games it plays is the first step toward freedom. This admission requires courage and a commitment to do what it takes to live into the highest version of yourself.
Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love and so to live into the fullness of who you are.
As always, do what best awakens you to Love,
Your Inner Wisdom