Choose Your Focus
Updated: Aug 15, 2022
~a love note from your Inner Wisdom
I am writing to remind you of things you already know. What you feed, grows. Weeds overtake your garden if you don't pull them. Flowers blossom when you fertilize them.
You are creating your experience of your life, not someone else. In other words, when you allow someone else’s bad mood or unskillful behavior to dictate how you feel, it is YOU creating your experience by internalizing it—taking things personally. Without a doubt, the words and actions of others affect each person energetically and emotionally; but it is your choice as to whether you choose to let the impact continue. Your thoughts and feelings about others affect you directly, not them. Your thoughts and emotions about others affect them indirectly through your attitude.
Through the practice of detachment from your mental commentary and the activating event (what the other person said and did or the disturbing life circumstance), relaxing your body, and letting go, you can let things flow through you. Other people’s unskillful behavior is not part of you unless you choose to internalize it.
What is your grand vision of yourself and your role in the world? What are your values? Focus on these things and not on what he said or what she did or the situation that upsets you. If a boundary is needed, set it and move on. What you feed, grows.
Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love and so to live into the fullness of who you are.
As always, do what best awakens you to Love,
Your Inner Wisdom
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