I am writing to remind you of things you already know. Shame arises from self-judgment. Don’t judge yourself so harshly. When you start living in your head and dwelling in the past, come back to this present moment. The past is over, and it only has power if you feed it. Connect to the Love within you.
To do this, you must see yourself through the eyes of Love. Forgive yourself for not meeting your own expectations of perfection. Remember, you are always doing the best you can with the knowledge you have. When your emotional reactivity, insecurities, and blind spots are triggered, you do not have the capacity to act skillfully. It is only when you are grounded in Love that you can make skillful choices. You are one human being on a planet of many. Everyone makes mistakes.
With this in mind, ease up. Relax the noose you’ve placed around your neck. Show yourself the love and compassion you so desperately want. If there is an apology to be made, make it. Then come back to NOW where you have the opportunity to connect to Love and thus to live into the fullness of who you are.
As always, do what best awakens you to love,
Your Inner Wisdom