When People Act Unskillfully
Updated: Aug 21, 2022
a love note to yourself from your Inner Wisdom
I am writing to remind you of things you already know. What other people say and do is about them, not about you. Taking things personally only causes you to suffer. When people act unskillfully, it is because their insecurity has replaced their love. It is a knee-jerk reaction and doesn’t mean anything about how they feel about you. It is all about how they feel about themselves.
When you take things personally, you give your power away. You have decided that the problem is “out there,” so the solution is that someone else needs to change their behavior or some situation needs to change. But you have no control over other people and events. You only have control over how you respond to what life presents.
To respond skillfully, consider what you need and what you want. What are you feeling? What would be nurturing for you right now? Give yourself the love and attention you need. Set any boundaries that need to be set. Then take your eyes off of the person or situation and re-connect to the Love within you.
Remember, this moment is an opportunity to connect to Love, and therefore, to live into the fullness of who you are.
As always, do what best awakens you to love,
Your Inner Wisdom
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