As long as you harbor a belief that there is a reason not to be happy, you give yourself an excuse to suffer. What if you made it your new year’s resolution to be unconditionally happy? What thought would you have to change or discard? I ask this question because it is only a thought that stands in between you and your happiness. Most often this thought is, “Things should be different.” That thought makes happiness dependent on circumstances, such as other people’s behav

Most of us feel like we need to arrive at the party with something. Often what we are bringing is a full cup of self. Self-cherishing is a carrying of self. We lug that cup of self because we believe that we must have something to present so that we can earn our way--an even exchange. And so we work to fill our cups in order that we may have something to offer. All of our mistakes, poor choices, selfish deeds, and embarressments are at the bottom of the cup covered by ou